Today I would like to speak about dating. I remember when I went for the first date with my future wife. It wasn’t so perfect, in fact it was terrible. Then after that I definitely tried to change the situation, and improved our next dates. But, the first date is still the most important, as you may lose your chance to correct your mistakes in future.
So, what should you do and avoid to make the impression on your partner.
DOs.
1. Smell good.
When going on a date try to smell good, be neat and clean. Do not smoke. Perhaps, for you it isn’t a problem but not everyone would like this smell, even smokers.
2. Compliments.
If you see your partner try to make some compliments. For example, if you are a man say something about her appearance, dress, hairdo, etc. For women these things are very important as they always want to be attractive.
3. Gentleman.
Be polite and gentle with her and with everyone she talks to. It may sound trivial but most women still like it.
4. Listen and ask.
Listen carefully to what your partner talks and ask questions.
5. Pay.
If you’re a man offer her to pay for the dinner, but do not insist. Some women want to pay for half.
DON’Ts
1. Don’t ask a woman where she would like to go. Plan everything by yourself. But, do not go into the cinema. On the first date you should get to know each other better and cinema isn’t the best place for this.
2. Don’t show your money. Forget about it, don’t show that you are rich, that you have a lot of money. Your partner should like you, but not your wallet.
3. Don’t give her flowers for the first time. Flowers are a good, women like them, but the first date isn’t the best time for this. You can scare her with this. Don’t take it too seriously, it’s just the first date.
4. Don’t be late. It refers both to men and women. Nobody likes to wait, especially for an hour… or two.
5. Don’t talk about bad things. Forget about drugs, alcohol, etc. Besides, don’t boast a lot. Nobody likes this.
6. If you don’t like the date and your partner and you do not have intentions to continue this relationship then don’t promise to call.
7. It’s your own decision whether to kiss or not on the first date but forget about sex on the first date. Even if both of you are ready for this, don’t do it unless you do not have serious intentions. Having sex on the first date can be a bad start of relationships.
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Great post and list of suggestions. It is always interesting to hear people’s perspective on dating and how to go about the first date. I really liked the list you put together of Do(s) and Don’t(s) and I thought it was great how each one of the things on the list pointed to the need to be thoughtful and considerate. I think when we are focused on the experience that other people are having, we usually end up in the right place.
you might add that it’s better not to talk about ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends. You should show that you got over it and that you’re ready and open to new people.
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