Scandals, fights, heated discussions – all this is an integral part of most people’s lives. At work, we are dissatisfied with the boss and constantly criticize him, arguing with spouse at home, pointing children how to behave, what to do, etc.
Finally, losing a lot of strength and energy, you feel completely exhausted, you start feeling sorry for yourself, and if there is someone who will listen and understand you – it’s great.
Can you learn how to avoid fights, make your dearest love and understand you, and make your colleagues respect you? Sure you can. Optimism suggests to use several simple rules that will help you get only positive emotions while speaking with people.
How optimism can help you to improve any relations
The world is great and diverse
Accept the fact that the world is diverse. So, all the people who inhabit the globe, are completely different: each has their own character, taste, lifestyle, dreams and desires. Maybe you are very polite and well-mannered man, and your colleague is rude. This still doesn’t mean he’s bad and you’re good, it’s just that he has his own views of life different from yours. Remember, our world is diverse, everyone is different, and you should accept them the way they are.
Don’t try to change somebody, no matter whether it’s your spouse, your friend or a colleague. You won’t succeed and you will just feel stressed.
What do you strive for in your life?
There are often cases when people think too much of some idea and when it’s not realized they feel depressed.
For example, you’re absolutely sure that the man of your dreams should be wealthy and generous, and your true love does not fall within the criteria. And then you begin to complain. Finally, it leads to fights and the breakdown of your relationship.
To avoid this try to forget about perfectionism. It’s clear that everyone wants to improve their life, but you should remember that there’s nothing perfect. Accept your partner the way he is, try to see positive sides in him, forgive his mistakes. And again… don’t wait him to change, only then you’ll be able to improve your relationship.
Appreciate the good, trusting relationships with your dearest. And if you had a quarrel with someone, don’t worry. Analyze why this happened, forgive them or ask them to forgive you.
Create a proper mindset
Imagine that your life is just a game. Be happy of all your victories and don’t worry because of your failures.
Try to understand that all your fights and heated discussions take your time and energy. Besides, they won’t bring you any good, just negative emotions.
Be positive, be an optimist and it will act like a magnet – it will give you lots of great moments in your relationships with your dearest.