We all have hard days. Difficult moments in our lives. Moments that we think will never pass, that we will never overcome. However that is not true. Many times there are obstacles in life that can only be overcome through time and patience. During those trials and tribulations we need to remember that “this too shall pass” or, like a certain fish named Dory says, “Just keep swimming”. If you let the circumstances of current events in your life stop you then you will never get over them. As Winston Churchill said:
“If you are going through Hell then keep going!”
How to overcome difficult moments of your life
I know all the inspiring quotes in the world cannot help you during a difficult period. I, too, have gone through trials in my life that seemed never ending. It is especially difficult when you are a child and have little to no real control over the situation. As an adult you have options on getting out and running away, but often times children and teens are stuck where they are, dependent on their families who are often the very ones creating all the drama.
In my case this was very much the truth. Since I was a small child I have always been quiet and responsible. I was never one to cause trouble and always looked for the best solution for everyone. However as I got older this peace seeking mission I was on got more and more difficult.
I was the child of a single mother. My mother worked very hard to keep things going and when I was six she remarried. She had my brother when I was seven. That is when things really started getting hard. My mother was never the strongest of women. She tried her best, but most of the everyday aspects of life were very difficult for her. After she had my brother they became more so. She was unable to cope with having another child, especially one with behavioral issues, and hold down a job. She did her best to handle it, but it did not help that her husband thought his responsibilities for caring for his family ended with the end of his job shift.
For many years I was a second parent to my younger brother. I did my best to care for his needs, both physically and emotionally. He was a happy child, don’t get me wrong, but he had many issues that would be difficult for an adult to handle, not to mention a child only seven years older. Once I entered high school and felt the increasing pressures of studies and the future pressing on me it made it even harder for me to not be resentful of the responsibility I had.
As my brother got older and began to become aware of our situation he, too, had issues with it. It is not the natural way for one sibling to be in charge of the other, and it caused issues more and more issues between us as he grew older.
Then it got worse. Our father left and our mother got into a bad car accident and couldn’t walk for two years. During that time I had to step up and take care of everything from bills to housekeeping to homework and transportation. I even had to be a nurse to my mother. I did not think I was going to make it through this difficult moment. It was all too much to handle, especially for a teenager.
However I did not give up or run away. I knew that everyone was counting on me to take care of things and had nowhere else to turn to. Instead I just kept going. No matter how difficult it got I remembered that tomorrow was a new day and that every day it was getting better. Even though I could not see the change day by day I could promise myself that it would get better.
It did. My brother got older and able to handle more of his own life. My mother improved and needed my help less. Finally I was able to get out of that situation and they were able to take care of themselves. However I do not know how they would have made it without my help. Sometimes the most difficult moments in your life coincide with the most difficult moments in others’ lives. The thing is to get through it together. If you can share the load then it gets lighter.
Do not give up, no matter what situation you are in. If you need to get out of it and you can then go for it, but if it is something that you are stuck in then just keep swimming and do not give up hope. There are better days ahead, you just have to overcome the present and look towards the future.