Living with an angry teen is never easy. It can be frustrating, hurtful, and very stressful. However, there are some specific things you can do to help him or her heal. Maintain positive communication, encourage healthy activities, and look into alternative placement if necessary.
Ways to heal an angry teenager
Having an open and honest conversation with your teen is always helpful. Teens that are angry and display that anger in inappropriate ways often do so because they do not know how to communicate properly. Their brains are still developing at this point, and when combined with the hormonal changes there is clearly a biological reason for their actions.
However, talking with your teen about why they are angry can help them work through these issues. It is important that the communication be done correctly. Do not ask open ended questions. These do not result in honest conversations and it makes it easy for a teen to ignore you. Ask about specific parts of their day. Also engage in active listening. This way your teen will know that you are hearing them, and it also prompts them to elaborate on their thoughts. You want your teen to start working through their anger in a positive way.
Encourage your teen to burn off their anger with exercise or other activities. The right activity will greatly depend on the interests of your teen. Some examples are yoga, martial arts, sports, running, or cycling. The activity should help them express their feelings and burn off excess energy. A study done at Princeton University found that exercise really does make people feel better. It is one of the best ways to reduce anxiety and to improve mood. Regular exercise or other physical activities can help teens naturally feel better.
If a teen has serious anger problems, violence and other destructive behavior may occur. If this is the case, you may want to look into alternative schools options. Professionals can step in and help teens manage their anger. Sometimes there are underlying issues like trauma or undiagnosed mental conditions that need professional intervention. Get the help you need to keep your family safe and to help your teen through this difficult time.
Teens need love and support to heal their anger. By following these steps you can help your teen learn how to manage their emotions. Do whatever is necessary to support your family and your angry teen.
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